A Parenting Experience and How to Overcome Concern with Child
School is out, and summer is here. Many parents question their children's future of education. It is innate in Dad or Mom to desires the best for your child. Being a parent is rewarding, though parental success is priceless.
In 2017, I participated in a group coaching session for parents where I really got to see that I was interacting with my son Keagan through my concerns for him versus being with him. Like every parent I had lots of concerns for my son, like the amount of time he played video games, how well he will do in school, will he grow up to be happy and successful, concerns for his physical well being, and of course what parent doesn’t deal with, at some point in time, fears or anxieties about what other’s think about our parenting, or how good our kids are?
Discovering this has created such freedom in my relationship with Keagan. I was able to give up my fears and anxieties for his future, I was able to take responsibility for my concerns and stop putting those on him. We have more fun in our relationship today, and I experience greater happiness, and joy in being a mom.
What are your concerns for your children? How do those concerns frame your interactions with them? Take a few moments and reflect on your last conversations with them, what concerns were present in what you spoke about, or the way in which you spoke to them about it? When was the last time you were just present with your child? No teachable moments, no conversations about what they need to do or not do, just being with them?
A wise man once said that we don’t create our families. If we thought our parents did a great job, we replicate it, or if we think they didn’t we do the opposite. What if you could choose to create your relationship with your children, your relationship with yourself as a mom or dad based on who you are now, not your past?
Something I realized about children and adults a long time ago is that children and teenagers are almost too present, not seeing how repeated actions over time result in habits that might not serve them. Whereas adults spend so much time thinking or worrying about the future we are almost never present. These concerns and worries rob us of the true joy of being a parent which is experiencing life with our children.
I invite you to try and be completely present with your children and discover something new in your relationship with them.
With love,
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